Monday, August 4, 2008

Accentuating the Positive




This past weekend, my brother, Frankie's Uncle D, decided to leave his busy NY life behind and slow things down at camp for a few days. It was great for me to hang with him and I know FJ enjoyed her time with him as well. He came to Detroit to meet her a few weeks after we got home from China but everything was still a little new and a lot cuckoo so, understandably, he was likely wondering if a) she would remember him (not a chance) and b) if she would be into him (most definitely). In fact, I estimate that it took her approximately 2 minutes to warm up to him before he became her very own personal jungle gym.

Uncle D showed up just in time for the Camp Tanuga "Friday Night Dinner." As usual, Frankie was holding court at her standard "head of the table" position. She gave "high 5's" to kids and counselors alike while happily alternating between stuffing her face and throwing her food. No easy feat, I know, but nothing unusual for Fray J. She is a fun and happy kid and mealtime is no exception. My brother caught on fast and wasted no time calling me out: "She's awesome, Rob. Why do you give her such a bad rap on the blog?" I was totally blindsided.

I do? I give her a bad rap?
I don't mean to!
Well, sometimes I do, I mean let's face it--she's not awesome 100% of the time (who is?), but believe you me, I'd be the first to push her way up on the scale of awesomeness, if there was one. (There should be one).

My Dad used to tell me that when he was a kid, when it came to him, my Grandma would frequently highlight the negative and rarely accentuate the positive. I don't want to be like that. There is far, FAR more positive associated with Frankie J than negative.

She is awesome.

She's really funny, especially when she hears music and no matter what she's doing, she'll start dancing. She's sweet, especially when I ask her for a kiss and she leans her forehead towards me so I can kiss it (that's her version--I don't question it). She's sassy with her new-found whiplash abbreviated head shaking "No-ooo" when I ask her if she wants some water. She's cute with her shy smile and quick shoulder shrug when someone asks her how she is. She's smart when she goes to pry open one of my hands and then the other looking for the rest of her goldfish that I have actually eaten instead of holding for her. She's amazing that she passed Mommy's sleep training course in 3 days and now she can put herself to sleep at home and at camp... and if she doesn't feel like sleeping, she is happy to blow raspberries and babble in some language that has no English translation until someone comes to get her. She's girlie when she crawls around with lip gloss in one hand and mascara in the other. She's hilarious when she pushes her walker toy around furtively channeling Sophia from "The Golden Girls." She's expressive when we say "Frankie...Kar-ah-tay?" and she breaks out a karate move that is so funny, I promise, you will wish wish you were wearing her diaper because you will pee in your pants. She's clueless that she hurts my feelings when she prefers Daddy to me (not that I blame her, he is pretty freakin' cool). She's a trooper with the 3-3-1/2 hour drive we do twice a week and she's a gem that she adjusts to the cabin when we're Up North or to the house when we're downstate the second she walks (crawls) in.

...and those are just the things off the top of my head.

Bad rap? We can't have that...unless, of course, she's listening to it in my car and we all know she would never rat out her Mommy for that. She's too loyal.

Hey, add that one to my list.

9 comments:

Unknown said...

i wish i was going on the 3-3 1/3 hour drive. i would be patient too, sorta. however, my karate moves or probably not nearly so sharp. git 'em frankie!

FinsUp said...

Awwww!

Clone her! I'll take 2.

Shawnstribe said...

bad rap????no!!!!
just a bit of mommy venting!!!
men just don't get that;)
FJ is perfectly perfect
xxx
s

Karin said...

I have never taken it as that!
I find my family reads my blog a whole lot different than the rest of the world. I can tell that you adore FJ.

Anonymous said...

Man she's getting big Rob!! Oh so cute by the way...so so cute!!!

I'm going to have to work on scrapbook #2 - age 1 and up! lol

love ya..

Aunti Jer

Anonymous said...

Anyone with kids, would most definitely not read this, & think that you were giving her a bad rap...unless of course, they are TOTALLY in denial, about ever being fed-up with their children! :) (You know, the ones that start drinking at 5pm everyday, rather than ever admitting that they're in desperate need of a vacation! :) ) I actually have passed this blog on, to many friends in LA, because it cracks me up, & it sounds so much like our evening phone conversations with each other, venting about whatever each kid has done that day, that has made us want to kill them! :) It is SOOOO PERFECTLY NORMAL to vent about your kids, (I actually think it's healthy), because they, like us, aren't perfect all the time, and it's much better if we recognize that now, and deal with whatever issues need dealing; rather than the old "shove it under the carpet" philosophy that much of the generation that raised us, believed in! Ok... now I'm getting off my soap-box, because my kids exhausted me today, & I'm not afraid to say that! :)
~Lanie~

Kathryn said...

Found your blog via RQ. Love it, love your honesty and humor. Adding you to my favorites and by the way she is totally a cutie pie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

a Tonggu Momma said...

Found your blog via RQ... and I have to say that you're doing a fine job describing realistic parenting moments! Some people only want to hear about ladybugs and red threads. I don't blog that way either.

I adore our little Tongginator. I hope that comes across on our blog. I also sigh a lot as a parent. Sometimes I even yell. But mostly I just laugh.

The Adventures of Jing and Ying said...

I'm impressed...I'm lucky if my daughters last one hour in the car, let alone 3+ hours :)

I love the photos of FJ pushing the walker. Both my girls had the same walker and they always reminded me of grannies pushing walkers!

Erica